How to have a Better Orgasm

Women and men, for that matter have been searching for the secrets to having a better orgasm since sex was invented. Books have been written about it, sex gurus have talked about better sexual positions for orgasm, food and diets that are supposed to help, exercise plans and even miracle drugs. While much of these tips are valid, it seems people are in pursuit of this never ending quest to have the perfect, most intense orgasm ever and if they don’t succeed they think there is something wrong with them. The continually compare themselves to others, buy into the media hype that tells them unless they do what the experts recommend, their sex life is somehow not measuring up to what it is supposed to be. In reality, this does more harm than good. It only creates insecurity and anxiety which in turn make having an orgasm, any orgasm more difficult, much less a mind blowing, earth shattering one.

The first step in having a better orgasm is to give yourself permission to do what is necessary to have one. Leave any sexual baggage at your door. This includes feelings of guilt and shame about your body, sex and pleasure. This goes a long way on the road to orgasm discovery.

One of the most important things someone can do to have a better orgasm and more fulfilling sex life overall is to know their own body and what gives them pleasure. Experimenting with what kind of touch feels good and where, what kind of stimulation at what level is needed to build arousal to the point of orgasm is crucial to having one. If someone does not know what pleases them sexually, how can they communicate that information to a sexual partner? Spend some time alone with your body and find out all it’s mysteries of pleasure.

Orgasms use muscles. It is not something we usually think of in the heat of the moment but the truth is, during sexual arousal and orgasm, our bodies use muscles we may not even know we had. Pelvic muscles contract during orgasm and if these muscles are not in tip top shape it can influence how we experience intensity of orgasm. Do Kegel exercises to strengthen these muscles and intensity of orgasm will improve.

Take a look in the medicine cabinet. Medications are notorious for having sexual side effects including difficulty with orgasm. A discussion with health care providers is in order if there are medications being taken. Sometimes there is an alternative medication that does not have the same side effects.

Breathe and go slow. Really breathe during sex. Slow deep breaths and controlled breathing helps keep oxygen flowing through the blood which helps orgasm and also helps someone be aware of everything going on with their body. It helps people tune into sex instead of tuning out. Breathing correctly can also help slow things down. Taking your time during foreplay and letting arousal build up actually makes orgasm better because by the time you finally let go it will feel like a much needed explosion.

Take inventory of your vagina. I don’t mean to count all the parts. But pay attention to what happens during sexual arousal and if there are problems in that area. If a woman experiences vaginal dryness or the elasticity of her vagina has decreased from childbirth or aging, sex can be uncomfortable or even painful and this does not make for an optimal orgasm situation. However, vaginal dryness and loss of elasticity are actually two things that are more easily fixed than other issues associated with sexuality and orgasm.

Intivar can do wonders for vaginal dryness and it also helps restore vaginal elasticity as well. One of the best aspects about Intivar is that it is made from all natural ingredients so you will not be exposing yourself to harsh chemicals. This vaginal gel not only provides lubrication but helps a woman produce more lubrication herself so there is no uncomfortable feeling during sex like there is when a woman has vaginal dryness. Intivar also helps tighten the vagina by helping restore elasticity which makes for more pleasurable sexual experiences. Using Intivar to solve vaginal dryness and elasticity issues is a definite solution that will help women have better orgasms.